What do you think makes the difference between winners and losers? We all want to win in life, so it’s important that we know the answer.
I recently learned an answer to that question that I’d like to share with you. In a sermon, Pastor Rick Warren said that what makes the difference between winners and losers is resilience. It’s not that winners never fail; it’s that they always bounce back from failures.
I couldn’t agree more. From my own experiences and observing the experiences of others, resilience is indeed a key ingredient for success. An example in my life (which I already wrote about in my article on not losing hope) is when I failed my Master’s degree at a local university. It was a disappointing experience, but I bounced back from it and eventually earned my degree at a much better university abroad.
So resilience is important. But the question is: how can we build it?
Here are six tips on building resilience:
1. Have a mission you believe in.
Failure is like a force that pulls you down. In order to counter it, you need a force that pulls you up. Having a mission that you believe in is such a force. In the face of failure, remembering your mission will once again ignite the fire within you. Why? Because you don’t do this just for yourself; you have a greater purpose in mind. That’s why you can’t let this one failure stop you. You must keep moving forward.
So identify a mission that you believe in. Even better, make a one-liner out of it so that you can remember it easily.
What if you don’t have a mission? Well, then take time to find one. You might find this article on finding your life purpose useful.
2. Have the right perspective toward failure.
To be resilient, you must view failure in a positive way. Rather than seeing it as an obstacle, see it as a stepping stone to success. See it as a way to get the learning experiences you need.
The fact is, having setbacks means that you have taken action. That’s a much better position to be in than doing nothing or, even worse, criticizing those who are trying to do something.
Remember: your goal is to win the war, not the battle. So it’s okay to lose some battles. You can still win the war.
3. Get around positive people.
Though it’s not impossible, it’s difficult to bounce back from failures if everyone around you is negative. That’s why you need to surround yourself with positive people. Be around those who can lift you up rather than drag you down.
But don’t forget to also do your part. Be positive toward others. Give encouragement to those who need it.
4. Take time to recover.
After experiencing a failure, don’t be too hard on yourself. Give yourself some time to recover. Use the time to reflect on what lessons you can learn and how you can do better next time.
Taking the time helps you stay in the game for the long term. It helps you avoid getting burned out.
5. Be a fighter.
To be resilient, you must have the attitude of a fighter. Be determined to fight a good fight. Be fierce. Don’t let your “opponent” go away without knowing what a good fighter you are.
6. Read the stories of great people.
If you have followed this blog for some time, you might know that I love to read stories about great people. They all have something in common: they have succeeded in spite of adversity, not in lack of it. They are good fighters. They are resilient. Reading their stories will inspire you.
These tips can help you build resilience and thereby win in life. But I’m sure there are still other ways. So let me ask you:
How do you build resilience?
Please share your thoughts in the comments.
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