Everyone wants to have a fulfilling life. Unfortunately, many people miss a key ingredient to have it: finding their life purpose. They may spend years of their life only to find at the end that they have done the wrong things. Many others achieve fame and financial success but feel empty inside.
Don’t make the same mistake. Your time is too precious to waste.
Why You Should Find Your Life Purpose
Here are three reasons why you should find your life purpose:
1. It gives meaning to everything you do
Your life purpose makes everything you do meaningful. You could be successful outside, but if you don’t find meaning you will feel empty inside.
2. It directs and guides you
Not only can your life purpose give you meaning, but also it can give you clear direction of where to go in life. It helps you make big decisions in life. People who don’t find their life purpose don’t have a strong foundation upon which to make their decisions. They most likely will just follow popular opinions.
Besides helping you make big decisions, your life purpose can also guide you in making small decisions. When you have two options in front of you, it will be easier for you to decide if you know what your life purpose is.
3. It motivates you
In life there are always difficult times to go through. You may experience failures or rejections. In such situations, your life purpose can give you the motivation you need to keep going.
How can your life purpose do that? By helping you see beyond the horizon. What you face in front of you may seem difficult but your life purpose helps you see beyond it.
Finding Life Purpose Is Not Easy
It’s never easy to find life purpose. In fact, it’s one of the most difficult things to do. Here are two reasons why finding life purpose is difficult:
1. It doesn’t have a universal formula
Life purpose is a personal thing. Everyone has different purpose and different way to find it. What apply to me might not apply to you and vice versa.
2. It takes time
This is perhaps the main reason why many people never find their life purpose. They want results instantly. Unfortunately, finding life purpose doesn’t work that way. It’s more like a journey than a one-time stop.
Tips to Find Your Life Purpose
While finding life purpose is a personal experience, there are a few tips that can help you find it. Here they are:
1. Don’t expect instant result
I’ve written above that finding life purpose takes time so don’t expect to find it soon. It’s a journey and rather than complaining about your journey you’d better enjoy it.
2. Identify your strengths
Your life purpose is related to your personal strengths. If you are strong in learning, for instance, it’s likely that your life purpose is related to learning. One way to find personal strengths is through StrengthsFinder test which can be found in the book StrengthsFinder 2.0.
3. Identify your passions
I’ve written about passions multiple times here. Your passions are things you do because of love and not because of external reward such as money or recognition. Find and develop your multiple passions.
4. Identify your causes
Identify the causes that matter to you. Is there a condition in the world that makes you feel discontent? Is there a condition that makes you feel the urge to do something about it?
5. Find the intersection between your strengths, passions, and causes
Now that you have identified your strengths, passions, and causes, you can find the intersection between them:
- Pick a cause from your list of causes.
- From your list of strengths, pick those that can help you improve the situation in the cause.
- From the strengths you pick, find the ones you can work on with enthusiasm.
You can repeat this exercise until you find a cause which have strong intersection with your strengths and passions. At the end of the exercise, you will find a cause you deeply care about for which you can effectively do something with enthusiasm. This is a clear sign of your life purpose.
6. Write a personal mission statement
Based on what you find in the previous step, write a personal mission statement. It’s your one-liner that concisely communicate what your life purpose is. Don’t worry about getting it right on the first try. Just write down what you’ve got and build upon it.
7. Do something about the intersection
Your one-liner is your guide to finding your life purpose. It may still be broad, so you should keep refining it. The way to refine it is by working on it. Make serious effort to act upon what you’ve found. Increase your competence and find ways to contribute to the cause you choose. Your effort will give you feedback that will either reinforce or diminish your interest on the subject.
8. Act based on the feedback to refine your personal mission statement
If the feedback from the previous step reinforces the purpose you’ve found, over time you will get better understanding of what exactly your life purpose is and how you should fulfill it. You may create new one-liners as you find new clues. This process of refining may take years but you are going in the right direction. You just need to keep your eyes and mind open to recognize every new clue regarding your strengths, passions and causes.
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I wrote my first personal mission statement in 2004 and it stayed for three years until I wrote my second (and current) one in 2007. I walk with it and I’m getting better and better idea about the precise nature of my life purpose.
I enjoy my journey. I hope you do too.
This article is part of September 2008 theme: Fulfilling Career
Photo by irisb477
Comment by Shanel Yang
#1 10. September 2008, 1:26 pm o'clock |
Great post and topic, Donald! Finding your purpose in life is a joy and a duty. Your tips should help people figure it out. I share my tips on how to do that, too, in my series “All About You!” at http://shanelyang.com/2008/07/18/all-about-you/
Comment by Jeff F
#2 10. September 2008, 6:41 pm o'clock |
Finding your life purpose is definitely something that is unique to the individual. For some it can be clear what it is, and to others it does indeed take time to find.
Many times, your life purpose will find you. Just don’t let it pass you by when it does!
Nietzsche said “Life without music is a mistake.” I couldn’t agree more, but feel even more strongly about “life without passion is a mistake”
Comment by Rob
#3 11. September 2008, 4:10 am o'clock |
POINT 2: Do you believe that identifying and acting upon personal weaknesses is also important? I believe that many people don’t accept their own weaknesses and by doing so their weakness actually work against them. Surely by having an awareness of what you don’t do so well you can ask for help when faced with certain situation where you know that your weakness will become apparent? What do you think?
POINT 4: Surely you may be concerned about something but it’s not inside of your circle of influence? Wouldn’t it be better to make a clear distinction here?
Comment by Donald Latumahina
#4 11. September 2008, 11:36 am o'clock |
Shanel,
A joy and a duty. I like the way you put it!
Jeff,
I agree. What you need to have is a prepared mind to recognize your life purpose when it passes. Hopefully the tips above can help us have a prepared mind.
Rob,
Regarding life purpose, I think identifying your strengths is more important than identifying your weaknesses. The reason is because I believe your life purpose is related to your strengths and not your weaknesses.
Knowing your weaknesses, however, is helpful to know when to ask for help (as you said).
For point 4, yes, what I mean here is something inside your circle of influence. You should be able to do something about it or it can’t be your purpose.
Comment by Leadership Development Training
#5 11. September 2008, 12:18 pm o'clock |
A personal mission statement is so important. I once learned that when progress is measured progress improves. When progress is measured and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates!
Comment by Arts Musings
#6 11. September 2008, 1:25 pm o'clock |
I believe life purpose is the key to living a happy and fulfilling life. Is it possible that “mid-life crisis” is merely a search for more meaning and purpose in our lives. I know that was the case for me.
Discovering my purpose immediately changed my life. This didn’t happen overnight, just like you said, but rather was a journey of introspection. From there, designing my mission statement was fairly easy.
Here’s the great part…everything I do, professionally and personally, is in alignment with my purpose and the mission statement I created. Work is fun because it’s not only what I’m meant to do, but it brings out the best in me – my strengths. Play time is just more fun because I now surround myself with people that support me rather than hold me back.
You have some great tips and tools and suggestions for readers to find their own path. Here’s one more that we’ve found helpful to others:
Look back on your life and identify when you’ve been the happiest. What was it about those situations that made you happy? Was there a sense of fulfillment and if so, why? Did you make someone laugh. Did you help someone through a tough time? Were you doing something you love to do?
When you look back at these times, you’ll begin seeing a pattern. This may make it easier for you to identify your purpose when you combine it with your natural strengths.
Thanks for the great information!
Comment by Fran
#7 12. September 2008, 3:54 pm o'clock |
Your purpose has a lot to do with your “Contract” Confused? Yeah, I was too.
Fact, if you do not have purpose, you die.
The question to ask is are you on purpose, or have you created coping styles to help you work around your true purpose?
Comment by Donald Latumahina
#8 18. September 2008, 8:52 pm o'clock |
Arts Musings,
Great suggestion. I agree, doing that can help us identify our purpose.
Frank,
That’s a truth that sadly many people don’t realize. When we don’t have a purpose, we don’t live our own life.
Comment by Michelle Vandepas
#9 7. October 2008, 7:12 pm o'clock |
Thanks for spreading the word about purpose and how important it is in one’s life. I’ve found that passions, and strengths may be closely related, but not always the path to purpose. I’ll look forward to more from you on Purpose!
Comment by Donald Latumahina
#10 9. October 2008, 6:49 am o'clock |
Michelle,
It’s true that passions and strengths aren’t always the path to purpose, but I think they are useful clues. Thanks for stopping by!
Comment by Ruth
#11 10. October 2008, 1:20 am o'clock |
Sometimes it takes a difficult time to make our life purpose known. Author Barbara Techel says that when her dog Frankie became paralyzed after an accident, that’s when she found her true purpose and wrote the children’s book “Frankie, The Walk ‘n’ Roll Dog” to teach others about overcoming challenges.
Comment by Patrick Hayden
#12 29. October 2008, 12:56 pm o'clock |
Hi iam a lifecoach,I do believe some of what you say is true ,however I have found my lifes purpose and I share my experiences with clients,I believe when you find your purpose that you can share it but you will find that you need to get paid.Everything is a game of give and take ,thats what keeps lifes wheel turning,nothing for nothing.You may of heard the saying,easy come easy go.a question for you and for others. Why is it,excitememt and depression two real feelings but not true.Thanks for listening.My email if you need to contact me for lifecoaching or answer to question.patohayden@gmail.com
Comment by qiusongtang
#13 1. November 2008, 10:23 am o'clock |
thank you very much! you are great!
Comment by Greg
#14 8. January 2009, 7:28 am o'clock |
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Comment by Alan Furth
#15 18. April 2009, 4:22 pm o'clock |
One of the main stumbling blocks to find our life’s purpose can be that we feel confused as to what are our true passions in life. I have found that this is usually a result of being caught up in a soul-crushing line of work and a conformist attitude that engulfs us in a haze of apathy.
In a recent blog post I share mu thoughts on how to break away from conformism, discovering what we are truly passionate about and going for it. I think you will find it complements nicely your thoughts on purpose…
http://alanfurth.com/freedom-of-itch
Comment by Franck
#16 7. July 2009, 9:39 pm o'clock |
Interesting article Donald. I’ve just add a completary article on my blog. You can read it at :http://positivethinking.penseepositive.net/life/discovering-your-lifes-purpose/
All the best.
Franck
Comment by mae claire loquillano
#17 28. July 2009, 11:07 pm o'clock |
life is what we make…do not allow the negative responces of others determine your value..trying hard is not bad,it is the way of achieving your goals in life.
Comment by Franck
#18 29. July 2009, 10:20 pm o'clock |
I’m totally agree with you Mae Claire :-)
Comment by Finding Your Purpose
#19 15. August 2009, 12:10 am o'clock |
Finding your purpose in life is such an important issue and I love to see articles just like this that help people come to the realization that it does not need to be life long struggle to find it.
Simply we just need to take the time to think about the things we are already doing and expand on them.
Excellent article and I will come back on a regular basis to look at this site.
Thanks.
Tim
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