How to Overcome Negative Thoughts

Posted by Donald Latumahina

Negative thoughts are the enemies of victorious life. Since our life is very much determined by our mind, our thoughts can make or break our life. Negative thoughts will distract your focus from the important and drain your energy. At the end, you will no longer have the ingredients necessary for success. Knowing how to overcome negative thoughts may make the difference between victory and defeat.

I believe there is an important principle at work regarding negative thoughts, and that is:

Attention is self-reinforcing.

If you give attention to negative thoughts, they will get stronger and stronger. What seems like a small matter in the beginning may become monstrous at the end. What you should do is breaking the vicious cycle by shifting your focus to something positive. You can then reinforce this positive attention until you completely defeat the negative thoughts (read more at attention management).

Here I’d like to share 20 tips to overcome negative thoughts mostly based on this principle. Not all tips are suitable for all situations, so choose the ones that work for you. Here they are:

  1. Realize that you only hurt yourself with negative thoughts. Don’t let them trick you.
  2. Decide that you will live your day with happiness and not let negative thoughts steal it.
  3. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’m a positive person. I won’t let negative thoughts control me. I’m a winner in life.”
  4. Read positive quotes. You can go to Quotations Page or ThinkExist and browse the topics. Or, if you want random quotes, you can go to Random Quotations.
  5. Never say negative words in your conversation.
  6. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive. For example, instead of thinking “This problem is too difficult” think “This problem is cool and challenging”.
  7. If you think negatively about someone, remember positive things about that person. Shift your attention to the positive side.
  8. Smile. It’s more difficult to think negatively when you are smiling.
  9. Walk and act confidently. Good body language helps you have good thoughts.
  10. Pray or meditate. Spiritual peace and calmness is among the most effective ways to overcome negative thoughts.
  11. Gather with positive people. Be careful not to choose the wrong people or the situation will only get worse.
  12. Take a nap so that you will wake up with a fresh mind.
  13. Read an inspiring book. Spiritual books often do well.
  14. Go out and appreciate the beauty of the world around you.
  15. Sing a cheerful song.
  16. Make yourself comfortable with failure. Failure is the stepping stone to success, so don’t be afraid to fail.
  17. Have realistic expectation. Accept the fact that people could make mistakes since nobody is perfect.
  18. If you think negatively about a situation, decide that you won’t give up even if the worst happens. Prove yourself to be a tough opponent. You are a winner.
  19. Accept yourself and be comfortable in who you are. You can’t be perfect but neither can anyone else.
  20. Help someone. Shift the focus away from yourself and do good to others.

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Categories: Attitude, Thinking

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70 Responses so far.

  1. Maria says:

    Thank You for the words of encouragment,Myself I was going through some difficult moment and the negative thoughts is depriving me happiness.Instead of being happy something negative will come into my mind,All I wanna say to all those who think Prayer doesnt work,You dont know God yet,Get to know and understand Him. start by accepting and appraciating the small things you have and you will blessed with bigger,Gods Time is Too Perfect.

    • Khurram says:

      Hi I feel very difficult with these negative thoughts and i didn’t understand what i do very embarrasing condition is created sometime i have no courage to do something with these negative thoughts.

  2. hello , my nameis parminder singh andiam 19 years old i am suffered with a disease , the disease is that the negative thoughts rise up in my mind and give lot of tension to me, i am suffered from this problem from last 4 years, please give me solution about this……

  3. likitha says:

    Hi…,If a problem comes automatically. then its ok.
    But if we create problem ourselves.who will response for that. God has given me so many opportunities but I misused them. Really I am worrying about that only. I so far am not close to any problem. Now I always am thinking that I have done mistake….mistake. What I am trying to convey is…………..Already everything is written that to happen so….or we do them so. I lost my job. Now since 1 year I have no job. Daily I keep thinking the same….that I have committed such a foolish thing. So please tell me ………Now what to do….
    Please can you give reply to mail id….
    it was happened for a good reason….If so, how…?

  4. Lady Penelope says:

    Liked and simply had to share. Thank you very much.

  5. neftali says:

    Awesome, the twenty commandments of positive thinking.