There are times when we must go through negative situations. Maybe people say something negative about us, or they show rejection or even resentment against us. In such situations, it may be difficult to stay positive. We may be inclined to react negatively to them. That won’t do us any good though; doing so will just make the situation worse. People may behave even more negatively to us. Our day would be filled with anger and disappointment. At the end, nobody wins.
Though it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive. Here are 15 tips on how to do it; pick the ones that work for you:
- Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
- Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.
- Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
- Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
- Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
- For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
- Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
- Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
- If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
- If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
- If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.
- Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
- Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.
- Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
- Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.
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Comment by Donald Latumahina
19 19. August 2008, 11:57 pm o'clock |
Razvan,
That’s the truth though it’s not convenient. I like to think of it like training our muscles. Only hard training will grow our muscles.
Thanks for sharing, Razvan!
Comment by Razvan Dobre
18 12. August 2008, 5:09 pm o'clock |
I like your article, especially no. 14 in this list.
You are very correct: the more you evolve, the tougher the situations will become. But without these negative happenings our life would be just joy and fun, and even if this sounds great, we wouldn’t learn anything at all. It’s the hard times that teach us a lesson.
I embrace you Donald and thank you again,
Razvan
Comment by Louise Aspden
17 9. January 2008, 7:33 pm o'clock |
You have a great list of tips here!
I would like to add one if you don’t mind. It is the piece about finding relief. Sometimes, if a situation has us upset we don’t have the cognitive or emotional ability to move back to where we had been.
We can however, find one thing within the situation, or the person to focus on that will make us feel just a little relief.
Relief is the path to attracting more joy.
With Gratitude…
Comment by Donald Latumahina
16 31. December 2007, 10:06 pm o'clock |
Well, yes. To write this post, I extracted the lessons I got from negative situations I encountered throughout the years.
Comment by Bipin
15 31. December 2007, 2:53 am o'clock |
Nice tips, Are all of the tips given by your own personal experience?
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