There are times when we must go through negative situations. Maybe people say something negative about us, or they show rejection or even resentment against us. In such situations, it may be difficult to stay positive. We may be inclined to react negatively to them. That won’t do us any good though; doing so will just make the situation worse. People may behave even more negatively to us. Our day would be filled with anger and disappointment. At the end, nobody wins.

streamingThough it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive. Here are 15 tips on how to do it; pick the ones that work for you:

  1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
  2. Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.
  3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
  4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
  5. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
  6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
  7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
  8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
  9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
  10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
  11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.
  12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
  13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.
  14. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
  15. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

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73 Responses so far.

  1. Alex says:

    I dig this post. Mirrors some of my own thoughts. I’d add in, Think of the Worst Case Scenario. Always puts things in perspective for me…and makes me laugh sometimes.

  2. emily says:

    Thanks for this article.
    Today has been a tough day for me, and it’s Valentines day– how ironic!
    Anyway, I’ve been talked about behind my back today, and this article made me think that there are worse things that could’ve been said or done. Either way, I am still a little upset about the situation but thanks for the tips. I’ll try not to let the negativity get to me.

  3. Kishor says:

    Forgiveness is the most important virtue – this is what I was taught by my family in Nepal. Forgive yourself and forgive others, this will make this world even more beautiful.

    – Nepal

  4. christina says:

    stay positive, think positive

  5. Anna says:

    Hi, thanks for this article. I’m just wondering if you could give some advice of the positive audio programs mentioned? I grew up with a strong faith but have lost it, so need some replacements to my old beliefs, and having difficulty finding positive recordings. Thanks!

    • charles says:

      Thanks sometimes live becomes so harsh, but at least now i can smile when i remember your tips on how to handle such situations in live i wish you all the best as you discover more and more.

    • Sheer Al Balushi says:


      Hope my e-mail finds you well!!
      Just wondering if you received names for motivational audio speeches as am looking for something similar for myself,

      Very much appreciated.


  6. Angela Blair says:

    I just was in a situation with my sister, her adittude made me feel negative and I reacted the wrong way not thinking I sould have said something positive to change her thoughts.Knowing positive things to say rubs off.

  7. amrin says:

    thanks for your attitude.please inspire all the people like this through out the world.thank u sir

  8. Bilal says:

    Thank you so much for these great, motivating words. I feel much more enlightened and positive now. I needed it.

  9. I’m thankful for these tips on how to response in a negative situation. I’m in the learning process now. I hope i can apply it daily in my life. I don’t want to lose a friend. God bless you.

  10. Tanmay says:

    Thanks for such a lovely article, i loved it!!!!:):)

  11. Kim says:

    Thank you for the positive post! It is refreshing to read something positive, especially when so many articles are negative. Again, thank you!

  12. rishant says:

    lovely article on how to remain positive and calm.

  13. Rob says:

    I’m a huge fan of people who are optimists. Thanks for this article, brilliantly written. Thumbs up!!! ;-)

  14. Great tips here! One I would like to add…..reduce stress and laugh more! The less stressed you are and the more you laugh, the more positive your attitude will be overall. As an author and professional organizer I am consistently sharing ways to do both. :-)

  15. Gokul Praveen says:

    Thank you so much,
    I was so angry and frustrated because of few mean guys. Reading this article gave me a lot of clarity.

  16. Nelson says:

    Well it’s difficult to stay positive with all the outside pressures of everyday life, kids, family your partner and off course the pressures of money always play a big part. I’m one who thinks positive, try not to think the worst, I believe in calling the bad and projecting the good.
    Big part of staying positive is love, yes with work it can conquer all.
    We need to take a step back, two to the side in order to move forward, with help from the one you love you/we/I can do it.

  17. Aaliyah says:

    This really makes me happles

  18. Tony Escobar says:

    Still relevant today. Thanks.