Note: This is a guest post from Zach of Always Live Now There is no denying the importance of making a good first impression. There are simply too many clichés decrying just how critical it is in developing positive relationships. Regardless of the relationship – personal or professional – getting off on the right foot cannot be overemphasized. Knowing this is one thing, being able to do it is quite another. Even when I try my best, it seems as though various wardrobe malfunctions, unruly hair or the ever present toothpaste stain always conspire against me. Without question, there is a somewhat superficial element that shouldn’t be ignored. It would be nice if there wasn’t – wouldn’t it be great if we actually got to know someone before we judged them – but like it or not, the world doesn’t always work that way. Making sure that we put our best foot forward with our hair combed, zippers up, and our teeth brushed can only help. But to me, the real keys to making good first impressions lie a little deeper.
How happy are you now? How is it compared with yesterday? With last week? As it turns out, comparing happiness, even of the same person at different times, is tricky. Why? Because our experiences change our view of happiness. Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert explains how our experiences change our view of happiness: Studies such as these demonstrate that once we have an experience, we cannot simply set it aside and see the world as we would have seen it had the experience never happened… Our experiences instantly become part of the lens through which we view our entire past, present, and future, and like any lens, they shape and distort what we see. The question is: how do our experiences change our view of happiness? One good explanation is the experience-stretching hypothesis:
Note: This is a guest post from Lisah of Getting to Zen What does it mean to live a healthy lifestyle? It is a way of living that allows you to enjoy more aspects of your life in a more fulfilling way. It is not just about trying to avoid one illness after another, or trying to just not feel as bad as you normally do. It is about feeling and being well physically, mentally and socially. It is about making specific choices that give you the opportunity to feel your best for as long as you can. Living a healthy lifestyle is about saying YES to life. Three Essential Ways to Live Healthy Do you want to have a body that can support you well into your old age? Do you wish to have mental clarity, quality relationships, good working internal functions, or even an overall feeling of well being? Well, living a healthy lifestyle is what can get you there, or at least improve your condition. There are three specific things that you should do:
Do you have idle potentials that you don’t develop? I have one: coding. I remember that when I was in high school I often spent time coding just for fun. At that time, I had a 80386 computer with 4 MB memory (it’s amazing how people could live with just 4 MB memory back then – it’s not enough to run even an empty browser window today!). I could spend hours writing programs (mostly simple games) and enjoyed every moment of it. But in the last few years I no longer did any serious coding. I still coded a bit because I teach programming, but I no longer considered it a fun it used to be and spent most of my time on other interests instead. I recently realized that to live my life to the fullest, I need to make the most out of my potentials. Just think about it. If you are capable of doing something but don’t do it, can you say that you are living your life to the fullest? I don’t think so. You can only say that if you develop your potential.
Note: This is a guest post from Walter Adena of LionSlinger.com Anxiety is a fact of life. Being part of our psychological makeup, this response is automatic when we are faced with situations threatening our sense of well-being. Since this propensity is genetically embedded on our brains, we have no way of preventing its manifestation. However, we can influence our response if we have sufficient awareness and discipline to counter its unhealthy encroachment. Allowing anxiety to dominate our thoughts can result in stress and depression. Little do we know that most of the fears we cater are unfounded; our minds have taken the habit of conjuring a scenario wherein feared situations arise. Left uncontrolled, these illusory fears will be incorporated unto our reality, thus stifling our view of the truth. If we are to take control of our anxieties, we must stop feeding our thoughts with negative imaginings. Instead, we should put our focus more on the clear facts surrounding us and deduce therein our real worries and concern. This will then reduce the gravity of our anxiety.
Do you want to boost your knowledge? There is one way that has become a new favorite of mine: listening to lectures. Among others, doing that has allowed me to write a post on overconfidence. I’ve been a fan of audio learning for a long time, but in the past I mostly used the time to listen to podcasts. Recently, however, I spend more and more time listening to lectures. There are three reasons for this: Lectures give me deeper understanding of a topic Unlike podcasts which could be all over the place, lectures are designed to dig deep into a topic. I love the depth of understanding I get from listening to lectures.