Saying “no” is one of the biggest timesavers in existence. It could spare you from unproductive commitments which may cost you hours, days, or even months of your time. Unfortunately, it may not be easy to say “no” when someone asks you for something. You may have a guilty feeling which makes you give a “yes” to the request while it actually deserves a “no”. As a result, you would be trapped in productivity pitfalls which will benefit neither you nor anybody else in the long term. So how do you use this big timesaver without feeling guilty? How can you say “no” with a smile and move on in your life? Here are four simple steps to help you do so:
The single most important ingredient of effectiveness is clarity, and the only way to increase clarity is by minimizing noise. That actually is the reason why you should read history more than news: history has much less noise than news. By reading history, you will consume a much more noise-free information compared to reading news. This, unfortunately, is not the norm. Most people read news much more than history. This won’t help you increase your personal effectiveness since news is the among the most noisy kind of information you can possibly get. Now I’d like to expand that one reason of why you should read history more than news to five more specific reasons. Here they are:
What does it mean to live smart? In my opinion, living smart means knowing how to leverage your situations in the best possible way to your maximum advantage. Regarding this, there is one word I often hear recently: arbitrage. I believe this word captures the essence of living smart. In fact, I believe that the art of arbitrage is the key to living smart. Keith Ferazzi used this word in his book Never Eat Alone with the term “social arbitrage” while Tim Ferris used it in The 4-Hour Workweek with the term “geoarbitrage”. They showed us two kinds of arbitrage, but I believe this concept can also be used in many other areas of life.
Being well liked is what most people want in relationships. The benefits are obvious. You will get the help you need at the time you need it. People will give you information about new opportunities you didn’t know before. Above all, they will really care and love you. But how could you get other people to like you? How could you become a well liked person? There is actually just one simple rule to follow: you should like other people before they like you. When people realize that you like them, it’s very likely that they will also like you. Regarding this, I believe that there is one and just one message you need to deliver in your relationships. Delivering this message is the key to strong relationships, and here it is: You are important to me.
I will go out of town until Sunday with no Internet access, so I may not be able to reply to your comments nor emails during that period. I have prepared a post to go live on Friday though (in addition to the post that will go live today), so you can still enjoy regular updates of the content.
There are so many interesting links I found since the last link post that my initial list for this post had no less than 24 links! But 24 articles is a bit too many for effective reading, so I trimmed it down to 10. Without further ado, here they are: Microtasks by Steve Pavlina How should you handle a big task? By breaking it down into microtasks and outlining them from beginning to the end. Career Advice by Scott Adams This article is relatively short but it gives you sound career advice. The bottom line: You make yourself rare by combining two or more “pretty goods” things you have until no one else has your mix.