Comments on: How to Manage a Long Distance Relationship http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/ Live Life to the Fullest - Personal Growth and Effectiveness Wed, 03 Dec 2008 05:43:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Dilaa Love Her Knight http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-109946 Dilaa Love Her Knight Fri, 28 Nov 2008 14:48:26 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-109946 This really really make me conscious. We don't need to look unhappy even if we are miles apart from the one that we loved. Thaaanks so much for your advice. LOVE IT SO MUCH ! You help me , a lot =) ! This really really make me conscious. We don’t need to look unhappy even if we are miles apart from the one that we loved. Thaaanks so much for your advice. LOVE IT SO MUCH !
You help me , a lot =) !

]]> By: Stacey http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-107467 Stacey Tue, 18 Nov 2008 03:41:43 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-107467 My husband and I have been married for the last 6 months. But we only stayed together for 18 days. He had to leave because of his job. I don't know when I'll see him next. I miss him a lot. Some days are worse than others. We talk on webcam everyday but it's still not same..:( My husband and I have been married for the last 6 months. But we only stayed together for 18 days. He had to leave because of his job. I don’t know when I’ll see him next. I miss him a lot. Some days are worse than others. We talk on webcam everyday but it’s still not same..:(

]]> By: Jane http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-105747 Jane Fri, 07 Nov 2008 21:13:55 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-105747 One of the biggest obsticles in my LDR is that I have become extreamly needy, and he has shut down emotionally. We havnt seen eachother in 8 months, and today we had a bit of a breakthrough, and things seem to be alot clearer now. We have become so stuck in the waiting, and the future, that we completely forgot about now, and our realtionship together. It is important not to see a LDR as a transition, rather as a relationship in its own right that has its own ups and downs. One of the biggest obsticles in my LDR is that I have become extreamly needy, and he has shut down emotionally. We havnt seen eachother in 8 months, and today we had a bit of a breakthrough, and things seem to be alot clearer now.

We have become so stuck in the waiting, and the future, that we completely forgot about now, and our realtionship together. It is important not to see a LDR as a transition, rather as a relationship in its own right that has its own ups and downs.

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]]> By: Ben http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-104156 Ben Sun, 26 Oct 2008 12:18:06 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-104156 Great article, full of useful tips, if you are in a LDR check http://www.waiit.com it is a cool website with articles, forums, testimonials from other couples in Long Distance Relationships Great article, full of useful tips, if you are in a LDR check http://www.waiit.com it is a cool website with articles, forums, testimonials from other couples in Long Distance Relationships

]]> By: safia http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-103618 safia Tue, 21 Oct 2008 21:03:36 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-103618 This was a great help Thanks This was a great help Thanks

]]> By: Avani-Mehta http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-99368 Avani-Mehta Tue, 23 Sep 2008 16:59:44 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-99368 Dillasoe, You simply will have to embrace the 'being so far' feeling. There is nothing that can reduce this distance. For me, staying in regular communication with my partner helped a lot. We both would remember minor details of what happened today to share with each at the next chat session. This sharing of small things and being on a lookout for things to share made a lot of difference. If you aren't working, then I suggest to find a project which can take up substantial part of your day. Something which you enjoy doing. Tutor kids, master a hobby, learn something new etc - anything which you can put all your focus and energy in. As they say, an idle mind is a devil's workshop. If you have something to focus your mind on, it will be easier for you to pass your day, trust your partner and miss him less. I used to work as a senior s/w programmer back in India. Was actively involved in the it project, used to take training sessions for my team and for the new batch of freshers. In addition to all this, I usually stayed busy with organising and managing sangeets (dance program in an indian wedding) for relatives, read like crazy (am an avid book reader. Must have read atleast 4 books a week. Had joined a library). And for whatever time was left (which surprisingly still turned out to be a lot), I spent with my family. I loved every minute of it (and of course still missed my partner). Best of luck to you. Dillasoe,

You simply will have to embrace the ‘being so far’ feeling. There is nothing that can reduce this distance.

For me, staying in regular communication with my partner helped a lot. We both would remember minor details of what happened today to share with each at the next chat session. This sharing of small things and being on a lookout for things to share made a lot of difference.

If you aren’t working, then I suggest to find a project which can take up substantial part of your day. Something which you enjoy doing. Tutor kids, master a hobby, learn something new etc - anything which you can put all your focus and energy in. As they say, an idle mind is a devil’s workshop. If you have something to focus your mind on, it will be easier for you to pass your day, trust your partner and miss him less.

I used to work as a senior s/w programmer back in India. Was actively involved in the it project, used to take training sessions for my team and for the new batch of freshers.

In addition to all this, I usually stayed busy with organising and managing sangeets (dance program in an indian wedding) for relatives, read like crazy (am an avid book reader. Must have read atleast 4 books a week. Had joined a library). And for whatever time was left (which surprisingly still turned out to be a lot), I spent with my family.

I loved every minute of it (and of course still missed my partner).

Best of luck to you.

]]> By: Dillasoe http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-99294 Dillasoe Tue, 23 Sep 2008 07:26:13 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-99294 Thanks, Im so lucky to find this site. Actually im kind of having a crisis for my LDR. Now we feel like we are "in the middle of nowhere". I m sending him this site and i hope he is reading this also, and hope this LDR will work better for us... I do trust him and i believe he trust me so, i think he trust me more, than i do to him. BUT the thing is how can i handle this feeling being "so far" as i live in Jakarta, and he is in Paris.... Anyone could help me? Thanks,

Im so lucky to find this site.
Actually im kind of having a crisis for my LDR.
Now we feel like we are “in the middle of nowhere”.
I m sending him this site and i hope he is reading this also,
and hope this LDR will work better for us…

I do trust him and i believe he trust me so, i think he trust me more, than i do to him.
BUT the thing is how can i handle this feeling being “so far” as i live in Jakarta, and he is in Paris….

Anyone could help me?

]]> By: dianne http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/08/06/long-distance-relationship/#comment-98932 dianne Sat, 20 Sep 2008 11:21:35 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=418#comment-98932 very nice article..i've sent it to my husband email way back home...very informative one...im sure this will work things out..tnx very nice article..i’ve sent it to my husband email way back home…very informative one…im sure this will work things out..tnx

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