Comments on: How to Manage a Long Distance Relationship

By: Anna Payan

Anna Payan — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 19:00:08 +0000

What I like about this blog is that you can just write down your feelings and not be judged because similar people are going through the same thing. I am in a long distance relationship right now and find it to be the hardest thing I have ever done. I am engaged and while that does help knowing that we are in a serious relationship, there is still temptation out there, and especially because I am young. We talk to each other everyday, on the phone, or computer. It makes it so much easier that we live in a time where people can see each other via skype. This makes the time go by faster and easier because you can see the person face to face. And while Long Distance isn’t easy my fiance and are moving in together in August and I can’t wait! Thanks for creating a page where you can talk to people with similar situations. I would like to know what some of you guys do to make the time apart to go by faster while being in a long distance relationship.

By: Bruno

Bruno — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 08:37:51 +0000

To Avani

You were right, it was the 2nd option.
But it ended up in the worst way it could, she basically abandoned me…
After that message I left in the end of the year she disappeared for 2 weeks and when she came back, avoided me like no tomorow so I ended up getting the message the hard way.
Now she went to France for work and she’ll be back in the same time I’m going back to the UK for events, and she’s probably goint to them too.
But I’m not going to talk to her even if she dares to aproach me, got me too heartbroken to lower myself to that point.

Anyway, thank you so much Avani-Mehta.
I’ll be more careful for the next LDR I get into.

By: Anna

Anna — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 01:46:05 +0000

Hi,
My relationship with my boyfriend is going strong, we fight a bit ,but its because I miss him dearly,so I tend to start fights just so I can hear him console me and make me feel better. Lately, I fall into these “down moments” where I miss him so much it’s sickening. We have been doing long distance for a year now. From Africa, Northern Canada and now the same province, I’m still missing him. ANnyways your article was helpful and made me open my eyes to long- distance relationships. Thank you.

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 22:59:38 +0000

Bruno,

I am not qualified to answer this question of yours so do not accept whatever I write below blindly. This is just my point of view.

For how long did you know the girl in UK before you started your relationship? Three days seems like a very short time to me to lay a base for a real strong relationship.

There could be two reasons why you can’t catch hold of her –
1. She is genuinely busy and the timing is off.
2. It was just a fling for her and she is not interested in pursuing a relationship.

Only she can answer which one of the above two is it for her. The next you do get to talk to her, please do get clear on this so that you can decide your plan of action accordingly.

Hope things work out for you.

By: Bruno

Bruno — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 01:15:00 +0000

Forgive me for this but I’ve been having a very depressing time latelly and feel I need help…
I live in Portugal and started a relationship with a girl from the UK. I’ve seen her when I went there but it only lasted 3 days and we’ve been apart for 2 weeks. I feel something is wrong after I came back, because she became very difficult to reach for contact for whatever reason. I try to contact her everyday and I can only just reach her in the last moment, somedays I can’t get her at all… I really love her and I am so afraid of losing, did I blew my relationship with her?

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:08:38 +0000

Excellent article. Very helpful and affirming. Thank you!

By: jeff bawden

jeff bawden — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 11:08:36 +0000

thankyou its so hard the first long distance relationship,love
jeff
i hope it gets easier

By: Brittany

Brittany — Sun, 16 Aug 2009 14:22:45 +0000

This article has really helped me…. I just started a long distance relationship and i’ve been very nervous on how this is supposed to work … I read your tips and I feel a lot better now …. I’m just worried about how hard it’s going to be

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By: paroquiademontelavar.org

paroquiademontelavar.org — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 22:35:49 +0000

Communication, trust, honesty and passion will strengthen your relationship whilst you’re apart but you really have to believe in each other and your relationship for it to succeed…. although long distance relationships can be difficult, they can work and do work for many couples if both parties put in the effort.