What’s worse, I don’t express it in out-of-control ways, like yelling or throwing things. I fool myself into thinking I’m in control because my voice is so even, but what I’m saying when I do is so venomous its embarrassing.

I will try these steps. I only hope I remember to use them.

thanks so much.

Avani,
Thanks for the information!

I wouldn’t take credit for that creative way of looking at cost of anger. I had joined a ten day residential Vipassana Meditation course. Had learned over there that not only anger but each thought affects our body in some way (positively and negatively). These sensations are so subtle that usually we don’t feel them. But when in extreme situations like anger they are so strong that we take notice.

You can find more about Vipassana here : http://www.dhamma.org/

@J.R. Please do check this course out. While I can’t gaurantee it will help, a lot of people in my family do vouch about this making a difference.

ps: I am not trying to sell Vipassana. And I don’t gain anything from it :)

Just look within to see how much our body has to pay for that emotion. When I used to get angry I would find might heart pounding hard and burning, a huge buzzz and noise in head and something very close to a bad headache. Worse, it stayed with me long after the moment got over and spoiled an extra few hours. A cost, I definitely don’t want to pay for something that can’t give me one benefit.