Comments on: How to Control Anger: 16 Simple Tips on Dealing with Anger http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/ How to Live Life to the Fullest - Personal Growth and Effectiveness Fri, 20 Nov 2009 08:46:30 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: saleh http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-161824 saleh Fri, 23 Oct 2009 02:16:44 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-161824 Anger is the capicity of Ones inner Feelings.And the Degree of Anger happens at the Time when That feeling is being Deceived with Either love,Freindship or Loosing a Promotion due to Influence or any other related Topics.The Rise of Anger varies from one person to another.After all Anger is an expression of Loosing what you need.When Anger is full of Emotions,Hate and Grudge and Sorrow !! My Point here i suggest immidiately Pull back your Thoughts Try what ever you can to avoid any clashes or word exchanging and most of all Take a Trip where you would see the Big Picture of your Problem and for sure you will get the Clue. Anger is the capicity of Ones inner Feelings.And the Degree of Anger happens at the Time when That feeling is being Deceived with Either love,Freindship or Loosing a Promotion due to Influence or any other related Topics.The Rise of Anger varies from one person to another.After all Anger is an expression of Loosing what you need.When Anger is full of Emotions,Hate and Grudge and Sorrow !! My Point here i suggest immidiately Pull back your Thoughts Try what ever you can to avoid any clashes or word exchanging and most of all Take a Trip where you would see the Big Picture of your Problem and for sure you will get the Clue.

]]> By: mary http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-160493 mary Sat, 10 Oct 2009 14:46:51 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-160493 i am angry when my boyfriend of 10 yrs. keeps cheating and drinking and putting me down calling me names and telling me hes better than me that i'm scum of the earth and sick in the head it really pees me off to no end and i'm trying hard to keep my cool i am angry when my boyfriend of 10 yrs. keeps cheating and drinking and putting me down calling me names and telling me hes better than me that i’m scum of the earth and sick in the head it really pees me off to no end and i’m trying hard to keep my cool

]]> By: Tasha http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-157235 Tasha Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:14:14 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-157235 I'm in an abusive relationship and this relationship and his actions has made me angry against him. So whenever he says anything to me that's insulting or anything that's disrespectful or anything that's just irritating to me (he always has something negative to say) I instantly go from 0 to 10 and I raise my voice;he says it's positive criticism; however, when I raise my voice I'm countering what he has said to me and this makes him angry b/c I'm yelling and then he in turn wants to lay hands. How can I not get angry and raise my voice? What he says makes me sooo angry b/c what he says is not true. He is just a controlling person. I try to walk away and he says communication is the key and that I always walk away from him (but he follows) he constantly nic pics and know it makes me angry. I dont' know what to do….. the physical abuse needs to stop but I'm afraid…. I’m in an abusive relationship and this relationship and his actions has made me angry against him. So whenever he says anything to me that’s insulting or anything that’s disrespectful or anything that’s just irritating to me (he always has something negative to say) I instantly go from 0 to 10 and I raise my voice;he says it’s positive criticism; however, when I raise my voice I’m countering what he has said to me and this makes him angry b/c I’m yelling and then he in turn wants to lay hands. How can I not get angry and raise my voice? What he says makes me sooo angry b/c what he says is not true. He is just a controlling person. I try to walk away and he says communication is the key and that I always walk away from him (but he follows) he constantly nic pics and know it makes me angry. I dont’ know what to do….. the physical abuse needs to stop but I’m afraid….

]]> By: sarah http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-157148 sarah Sat, 12 Sep 2009 05:44:10 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-157148 I liked these tips very much. I considered myself a giving, caring people. My biggest problem i have with getting angry if someone disrespects me. I usually stay calm at first at state why i'm upset, but the minute I feel like i'm not being heard i totally blow it. I don't hit or anything like that but i will become pretty ugly acting. I liked these tips very much. I considered myself
a giving, caring people. My biggest problem i have with getting angry if someone disrespects me. I usually stay calm at first at state why i’m upset, but the minute I feel like i’m not being heard i totally blow it. I don’t hit or anything like that but i will become pretty ugly acting.

]]> By: Anger Children http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-148405 Anger Children Thu, 16 Jul 2009 17:01:46 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-148405 I no longer believe anger is wrong. I now use anger as an assertive process. Anger helps me to express my feelings to resolve conflict. I no longer believe anger is wrong. I now use anger as an assertive
process. Anger helps me to express my feelings to resolve conflict.

]]> By: anne http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-143527 anne Sun, 28 Jun 2009 12:39:56 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-143527 my boyfriend and i are always fighting because of my not so good attitude and because of that, we always fight everyday and everynight! when we start fighting i couldn't control myself anymore i just want to kill him or punch him but its just all in my mind... and with that my life wud also become miserable because of him, i don't even know what to do, i always blame him of becoming what iam... =( my boyfriend and i are always fighting because of my not so good attitude and because of that, we always fight everyday and everynight! when we start fighting i couldn’t control myself anymore i just want to kill him or punch him but its just all in my mind… and with that my life wud also become miserable because of him, i don’t even know what to do, i always blame him of becoming what iam… =(

]]> By: Jennifer Kelly http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-140803 Jennifer Kelly Mon, 08 Jun 2009 05:15:02 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-140803 I too get very angry, very fast. I get there so quick that I can't even get myself to count to 10 or drink water. I KNOW this does help, I've been able to do it when I'm mildly irritated. I feel I'm a very nice person, caring, loving and fun, however, I see and hear my children getting mad and I know I'm hearing what they hear from me. You think this would be enough to stop doing it. It helps for a short time, then the old me comes back. I scream at my husband and children when they don't instantly do as they've been told (more my children). My husband has voiced his concern that someone will call the police and the law says someone has to go. This has never happened. I sometimes wonder if this is what will make me get a grip on things. My mother was a yeller, we don't have a great relationship to this day. I have always said I want to be better for my daughter. I'm so scared that I'm repeating history. I'm on Welbutrin XL and it does help, but not completely. I have spoken to several doctors about my concern. I fear that they look at me and can't possibly see how this professional, educated, married woman could totally loose it. No one has really addressed the problem. Even my dog is afraid of me and hides under the bed when I raise my voice even a little. I will keep looking for the answer and maybe someday I will make that appointment with a counselor. I too get very angry, very fast. I get there so quick that I can’t even get myself to count to 10 or drink water. I KNOW this does help, I’ve been able to do it when I’m mildly irritated. I feel I’m a very nice person, caring, loving and fun, however, I see and hear my children getting mad and I know I’m hearing what they hear from me. You think this would be enough to stop doing it. It helps for a short time, then the old me comes back. I scream at my husband and children when they don’t instantly do as they’ve been told (more my children). My husband has voiced his concern that someone will call the police and the law says someone has to go. This has never happened. I sometimes wonder if this is what will make me get a grip on things. My mother was a yeller, we don’t have a great relationship to this day. I have always said I want to be better for my daughter. I’m so scared that I’m repeating history. I’m on Welbutrin XL and it does help, but not completely. I have spoken to several doctors about my concern. I fear that they look at me and can’t possibly see how this professional, educated, married woman could totally loose it. No one has really addressed the problem. Even my dog is afraid of me and hides under the bed when I raise my voice even a little. I will keep looking for the answer and maybe someday I will make that appointment with a counselor.

]]> By: James http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-140748 James Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:41:23 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-140748 Civilization is unatural. Therefore, only nature can restore our minds and calm the beast within. To our primal selves, billions of years in the making, this all does not make much sense. If one gets too angry, they can wind up in prison or dead. Therefore, the only true therapy for anger is to get out into the wilderness, for at least a few days. Civilization is unatural. Therefore, only nature can restore our minds and calm the beast within. To our primal selves, billions of years in the making, this all does not make much sense. If one gets too angry, they can wind up in prison or dead. Therefore, the only true therapy for anger is to get out into the wilderness, for at least a few days.

]]> By: Gary http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-138946 Gary Fri, 29 May 2009 09:29:21 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-138946 Thanks for providing the numerous ways on how to control anger. It's awesome. I read somewhere that drinking water can somewhat help to control anger because it tends to cool you down. Thanks for providing the numerous ways on how to control anger. It’s awesome.

I read somewhere that drinking water can somewhat help to control anger because it tends to cool you down.

]]> By: Peggy http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/05/02/how-to-control-anger-tips-on-dealing-with-anger/comment-page-1/#comment-132902 Peggy Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:18:28 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/?p=300#comment-132902 A few comments from someone who counseled at-risk youth for many years: You're right, Nicola, these tips won't work (at least initially) if you have rage instead of anger. Please consider going to a counselor regarding your rage, because there's definitely more going on with you than your boss. I can tell you that everyone gets angry, but people react differently to their anger. It is abnormal to react to your boss in such a way, and you need to find out how YOU can control your rage before you harm yourself or someone else. Tyler, you might try to work on your communication skills. Maybe by just talking to your girlfriend calmly about this. She might not change her mind, but you can listen to her side and get another perspective. Erica, obviously you learned your anger "management" skills from your mother! Neither of you seem to handle your anger well. I would disagree with your mom that this situation was your fault. Both of you equally handled this poorly. I would suggest family therapy to learn how to handle your anger effectively, but also how to get along well with each other! A few comments from someone who counseled at-risk youth for many years:
You’re right, Nicola, these tips won’t work (at least initially) if you have rage instead of anger. Please consider going to a counselor regarding your rage, because there’s definitely more going on with you than your boss. I can tell you that everyone gets angry, but people react differently to their anger. It is abnormal to react to your boss in such a way, and you need to find out how YOU can control your rage before you harm yourself or someone else.
Tyler, you might try to work on your communication skills. Maybe by just talking to your girlfriend calmly about this. She might not change her mind, but you can listen to her side and get another perspective.
Erica, obviously you learned your anger “management” skills from your mother! Neither of you seem to handle your anger well. I would disagree with your mom that this situation was your fault. Both of you equally handled this poorly. I would suggest family therapy to learn how to handle your anger effectively, but also how to get along well with each other!

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