Comments on: The Danger of Being Obsessed and How to Overcome It

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 17:52:40 +0000

I am obsessed with my childrens father. I am 31years old and we have been on and off for 10 yrs. Whenever we break up, he always starts seeing someone new. I play detective and find out everything about the other woman… we have been back together for almost 5 months and I am constantly stalking these womens’ facebook pages, i even call their jobs and hang up when they answer. I save pictures of them, check their criminal backgrounds and even go out of my way to drive by their homes. I purposely shop at stores near them just so I can bump into one. The last time we were broke up, he slept with 6 differant women in 4 months. I found this out by reading his texts after we moved back in together. This is destroying our relationship and my life an I just want to stop.

By: doobie

doobie — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 02:18:23 +0000

would it be an obsession if you couldnt stop thinking about your other half??? like 24/7?and you just want to be together but you cant because you both live in different countries???? Most of our communication is by email but it doesnt seem enough for me iv’e never done a long distance relationship before and its really hard for me!!
He has before and hes patient-where as i feel like this crazy love sick puppy-that cant calm down.
But i calm myself down because i dont want to look like a nut!!!I find myself pulling myself back all the time from writing too many letters or coming off as really desperate-because i am very in love-and thats the peril of falling so deeply in love with someone you havent even met in person yet.
Is this normal??!!!CAN it be justified??!!!

By: Jonet

Jonet — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 22:23:39 +0000

Omg, me too. It’s so annoying! And I can’t even talk to him at lunch because he’s never there and I found out today that it’s because he hasn’t been wearing the uniform so he gets lunch detention. I feel like getting lunch detention just to be able to talk to him. It doesn’t get out on my permanent record or anything like that. It’s pretty. Mic a regular class and it’s better than being in the cafeteria. I hate Brighton there! I want to talk to him so bad! Oh goodness, I just finished being obsessed with this other boy and now I’m obsessed again. Oh lord, someone help me -.-

By: Nelly Jele

Nelly Jele — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 21:34:22 +0000

Im 22yrs im obsessed wt my partener i call him wanting 2 knw where is he who is hanging wt how much money did he spent on what i even lost focus 2 pay attention on my goals and dream plz help im falling apart

By: sasha

sasha — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 11:42:59 +0000

i had parents who were mentally sick my father was alcoholic, voilent and with serious mental problems. Mother was depressed and narcisstic same case with entire relatives and brother also.
I have serious obsession problem from childhood. I think from 7th grade. I would keep thinking about boys. A particular boy will catch my fancy i would keep thinking about them for year or two basically i think i created a fantasy world around me to escape the harshness and loneliness in my realworld. I hardly spoke to anyone and most of the time i was alone
now i dont even remember the names of the boys i had obsessed about, chased, followed, kept calling etc.
even after getting married my illness persist and if some guy talks nicely with me then i get mesmerised and start obsessing over them.
Last year i followed a married man, kept following him, calling him up after couple of months of nonsense he just cut me off his list and i went into depression. Months of depression later and counselling my condition improved and there was a personality change somehow i was no longer the earlier person. Though im very naive and act funny from time to time but a serious and mature side as been added to my personality now.

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 03:43:24 +0000

can someone give me adivce?
i have become very obsessed with this boy from school and i don’t even know him. I constantly stalk him on facebook, try to meet him in the hallway by finding out his whole schedule, find out as much information on him as possible. I stalk his friends too. I save pictures from facebook of him onto my computer. I try everything to get him to notice me. I get outraged when other girls talk to him. All i think about is him. I find it hard to focus on other things. I want to talk to him very badly but i think he won’t like me an i’ll look like a fool. But i just don’t know what to do and i feel like i’m losing my mind. Please can someone help me?

By: dan

dan — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 22:38:08 +0000

clearly the author is not a psychologist. a lot of you people posting comments really need to seek professional help. I don’t mean to be overly critical, but while these tips may be helpful to some, I think this advice is terrible for 99% of people.

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 20:05:06 +0000

I am obsessed with a friend I met about a year ago. She was one of those people that seemed pretty much perfect and so I immediately thought she was cool and wanted to get to know her and be friends. After a while it got to the point to where I texted her daily and called every once in a while and messaged her on facebook and even though I knew it wouldn’t be a good idea to continue trying to communicate with her I still tried and it ended up the way I kinda knew it would; she began to
think I was annoying. I had become the person who I had always dis liked. The annoying obsessive friend. So I was completely ashamed and embarassed. I decided to cut off any access to communicate with her. I deleted her number out of my phone and promised myself to not contact her or overly excited when we spoke in person. Obsession an excessive mental focus that turns into an unhealthy need that has potential to ruin alot of great things in your life.

By: cccris

cccris — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 11:59:02 +0000

to someone obsessed I would say to postpone the obsession and to try to focus on the breathing and on his/her body.. and to think about the see waves..

By: Sylv

Sylv — Sat, 01 May 2010 13:06:30 +0000

After reading all the comments, I too believe I am obsessed. A few years ago there was a work-mate who I trusted at the time as a friend, after a drunken night(well my friends say I was drugged but I can’t remember anything) we got together horribly, after that he began stalking me outside my home, at work and in public places…i believed I was raped but since my memory is blank I cannot be sure…he eventually got me believing that it was my fault and would threaten me that he’ll hurt my family so I stuck with his word and continued with him as his secret mistress, I broke it off 7 long and ugly months later by actually running away to another city. I could no longer continue my 15yr relationship with my partner at that time as the shame and doubt of this horrible affair tore me apart inside. Since then I have never quite recovered, I can no longer have any close relationships with men, I cannot make new friends because I don’t trust anyone anymore. If I meet a nice man I go all strange and ruin it by contacting them more than 10 times everyday with strange comments(I can see what I’m doing but still don’t stop), what gets me is that I fall in love after a week…I don’t know why I’m doing that especially when I don’t know them, If I txt and they don’t reply within 2 hours I txt some nasty stuff with the word “player” somewhere in there. I was played by this stalker I know that and I have accepted that but now all I’m doing in life is continously pushing people away by being angry and obsessed especially with men. Why? Why? Why? I need to stop, I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life I’m only 38yrs.