Comments on: The Danger of Being Obsessed and How to Overcome It http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/ How to Live Life to the Fullest - Personal Growth and Effectiveness Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:12:11 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Leilani Ferreira http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-181935 Leilani Ferreira Sun, 28 Feb 2010 02:59:42 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-181935 To whom it may concern; My sister is in a psyciatric hospital for the second time in 1 month.For the past 5 years she has struggled with depression but never out of control. She is obsessed with getting back with her ex-boyfriend. They did not have a healthy relationship and she knows that it is not best to get back with him. In her state of mind that is all she talkes about. He does not want anything to do with her because she scares him. She has made comments which she said are only jokes. She has mentioned that he could die today and that if he does not take her back then she will burn his house down. She has also talked of wrecking her car. As her family we are all nervous about her getting out and coming home. Please give me some advise of what I can say to her when she talks about him. I want to positively enforce something but I am at a loss. Respectfully, Leilani :) To whom it may concern;
My sister is in a psyciatric hospital for the second time in 1 month.For the past 5 years she has struggled with depression but never out of control. She is obsessed with getting back with her ex-boyfriend. They did not have a healthy relationship and she knows that it is not best to get back with him. In her state of mind that is all she talkes about. He does not want anything to do with her because she scares him. She has made comments which she said are only jokes. She has mentioned that he could die today and that if he does not take her back then she will burn his house down. She has also talked of wrecking her car. As her family we are all nervous about her getting out and coming home. Please give me some advise of what I can say to her when she talks about him. I want to positively enforce something but I am at a loss.

Respectfully,
Leilani :)

]]> By: Tom http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-173572 Tom Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:25:20 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-173572 I'm not sure if what I'm going through is obsession or grief. Maybe both. My soon to be 18yo son has been involved with drugs for probably five+ years now. He is now no longer in our home or a part of our family. The process has been very painful for our whole family, but it came to a point where either he had to leave or I would have to. My wife and I go to Families Anonymous, and it helps, but I probably still think of my son dozens of times a day, and each time I get derailed. I'll hear a song and tears will come. I'll be speaking with people and the subject of family will come up and I have to change the subject. I know things will get better for me as time goes on, I'm old enough to know that for a certainty, but it's taking much longer than I thought. In some ways it would be easier if he had died, I could go through the grief process. With this situation, I'll hear news of my son and still have hope, which brings the whole thing back again. I think I already have the range of "motivations" pretty well covered, and maybe it would be good to do more of some of the activities I have been, or am currently, involved in but I just can't right now. I have to let my son go, but can't seem to. Which is how I ended up googling "obsession" and finding this website. I thought I'd post, more as a way of venting than anything else. As a way of sharing some of my struggle with all you anonymous internet readers. Thank you and I wish you all success in your paths to wholeness. I’m not sure if what I’m going through is obsession or grief. Maybe both.
My soon to be 18yo son has been involved with drugs for probably five+ years now. He is now no longer in our home or a part of our family. The process has been very painful for our whole family, but it came to a point where either he had to leave or I would have to. My wife and I go to Families Anonymous, and it helps, but I probably still think of my son dozens of times a day, and each time I get derailed. I’ll hear a song and tears will come. I’ll be speaking with people and the subject of family will come up and I have to change the subject. I know things will get better for me as time goes on, I’m old enough to know that for a certainty, but it’s taking much longer than I thought. In some ways it would be easier if he had died, I could go through the grief process. With this situation, I’ll hear news of my son and still have hope, which brings the whole thing back again.
I think I already have the range of “motivations” pretty well covered, and maybe it would be good to do more of some of the activities I have been, or am currently, involved in but I just can’t right now. I have to let my son go, but can’t seem to. Which is how I ended up googling “obsession” and finding this website. I thought I’d post, more as a way of venting than anything else. As a way of sharing some of my struggle with all you anonymous internet readers. Thank you and I wish you all success in your paths to wholeness.

]]> By: brit http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-167184 brit Sun, 29 Nov 2009 02:39:28 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-167184 Ive become obsessed with this girl ive known for about 6 years now-we arent freinds but she knows who i am we do the same sport when i first met her shes a really cocky in your face person and she actually picked the sport up really fast and seemed to improve in leaps and bounds over the next couple of years where as it took me a long time to learn anything also her life seemed to always be improving all the time-id hear stuff about her and read stuff about her online-i think that must be obsession id google her and stuff- im not a lesbian i just hate her in a way and i dont like it- every time i see a picture of her its always her doing something really good like she wants everyone to see her success in her sport and everything she does i might be abit jelous but it just really gets to me and i am obsessed does anyone else have this porblem? Ive become obsessed with this girl ive known for about 6 years now-we arent freinds but she knows who i am we do the same sport when i first met her shes a really cocky in your face person and she actually picked the sport up really fast and seemed to improve in leaps and bounds over the next couple of years where as it took me a long time to learn anything also her life seemed to always be improving all the time-id hear stuff about her and read stuff about her online-i think that must be obsession id google her and stuff- im not a lesbian i just hate her in a way and i dont like it- every time i see a picture of her its always her doing something really good like she wants everyone to see her success in her sport and everything she does
i might be abit jelous but it just really gets to me and i am obsessed does anyone else have this porblem?

]]> By: Jon Palmer http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-165264 Jon Palmer Sun, 15 Nov 2009 04:58:12 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-165264 the state of relaxation for me is entirely contrary to the state of obsession. The state of obsession is tense and uncomfortable, and I cannot easily break it until I have exhausted all of my options for gaining the desired end. Focus becomes obsession if the most obvious options are unsuccessful and I have to resort to more creative means of gaining the end. The obsession can be interrupted by the appearance of a more desired aim, or by the appearance of the option to pursue an aim of equal or lesser importance that I can get or achieve more easily. the state of relaxation for me is entirely contrary to the state of obsession. The state of obsession is tense and uncomfortable, and I cannot easily break it until I have exhausted all of my options for gaining the desired end. Focus becomes obsession if the most obvious options are unsuccessful and I have to resort to more creative means of gaining the end.

The obsession can be interrupted by the appearance of a more desired aim, or by the appearance of the option to pursue an aim of equal or lesser importance that I can get or achieve more easily.

]]> By: inanna http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-162451 inanna Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:58:38 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-162451 What would you say to someone who is obsessed? What would you say to someone who is obsessed?

]]> By: AAAAH http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-132227 AAAAH Thu, 16 Apr 2009 20:25:32 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-132227 i think im obsessed... im in love with this guy - weve been dating for almost a year now. i just didnt think there was actuall ya way to put how i feel. but does this mean that i should break up with him? or just to get a grip on me before i choose to make advances relationship wise? i think im obsessed…
im in love with this guy – weve been dating for almost a year now. i just didnt think there was actuall ya way to put how i feel.
but does this mean that i should break up with him? or just to get a grip on me before i choose to make advances relationship wise?

]]> By: Kim http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-105303 Kim Tue, 04 Nov 2008 09:46:14 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-105303 im a huge criss angel fan and i wanted to share this email i sent to one of my best friend admitting my problem www.crissangel.com i dont know how to start this hun but im having some problems accepting who criss dates and ive said some horrible things not to him or holly but offline and i finally admitted that i have a problem dealing between fantasy and reality and being obsessed and getting to carried away i have a habit of doing that and i dont want anyone judging me or rejecting me because of this i have problems with dealing with the real world because i was diagnosed with some mental challenges and im learning disabled ive not logged in as much because im afraid of being banned or rejected and i cannot talk to anyone about my problems because it all comes out so diffrent and diffrent opinions like they dont understand were i am comming from i am currently in counseling for it and i want to get better i know in my heart that i cant make criss angel my whole life because i know hes not a perfect person and he has faults i try not to get to into his personal life which i have talked to my counselor about it she is helping me thru this jamie and i know i will get better i promise you alll that i will i just have so much anger in myself because i was rejected so many times by people who have bulllied me in school i was always alone had no one to talk to and i resorted to my own world were no one can hurt me and i always lived in a fantasy world in stead of dealing with the real world and dealing with people who judge me reject me hurt me break my heart i dont want to be treated any diffrently than any Loyal because im not that kind of person who thinks im a obsessive stalker thats not me i would never hurt criss or his family or be of something i cannot control i havent violated any of the rules or have bashed on this board because i respect all the rules and i abide by them and i am getting the help i need and i understand criss concern for me i just dont want people saying OMG GET A LIFE U ARE CRAZY EWWWW OR OMG CRISS HATES THAT U ARE LIKE THIS yer gonna get banned or omg i dont wanna be your friend or eww u are a Loyal and u are like that ITS THE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK I HATE when i explain something i neeed help at and it doesnt come out right i hope and pray i will get the help i need and get on with my life resoectfully LoyalKim im a huge criss angel fan and i wanted to share this email i sent to one of my best friend admitting my problem

http://www.crissangel.com

i dont know how to start this hun but im having some problems accepting who criss dates and ive said some horrible things not to him or holly but offline and i finally admitted that i have a problem dealing between fantasy and reality and being obsessed and getting to carried away i have a habit of doing that and i dont want anyone judging me or rejecting me because of this i have problems with dealing with the real world because i was diagnosed with some mental challenges and im learning disabled ive not logged in as much because im

afraid of being banned or rejected and i cannot talk to anyone about my problems because it all comes out so diffrent and diffrent opinions like they dont understand were i am comming from i am currently in counseling for it and i want to get better i know in my heart that i cant make criss angel my whole life because i know hes not a perfect person and he has faults i try not to get to into his personal life which i have talked to my counselor about it she is helping me thru this jamie and i know i will get better i promise you alll that i will i just have so much anger in myself because i was rejected so many times by

people who have bulllied me in school i was always alone had no one to talk to and i resorted to my own world were no one can hurt me and i always lived in a fantasy world in stead of dealing with the real world and dealing with people who judge me reject me hurt me break my heart i dont want to be treated any diffrently than any Loyal because im not that kind of person who thinks im a obsessive stalker thats not me i would never hurt criss or his family or be of something i cannot control i havent violated any of the rules or have bashed on this board because i respect all the rules and i abide by them and i am getting the help i need and i understand criss concern for me i just dont want people saying OMG GET A LIFE U ARE CRAZY EWWWW OR OMG CRISS HATES THAT U ARE LIKE THIS yer gonna get banned or omg i dont wanna be your friend or eww u are a Loyal and u are like that

ITS THE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK I HATE when i explain something i neeed help at
and it doesnt come out right

i hope and pray i will get the help i need and get on with my life

resoectfully LoyalKim

]]> By: Donald Latumahina http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-71415 Donald Latumahina Tue, 20 May 2008 01:03:46 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-71415 Mathieu, Yes, the art of balancing our focus is essential. It's difficult to learn, but it's a key to getting the most out of our life. Mathieu,
Yes, the art of balancing our focus is essential. It’s difficult to learn, but it’s a key to getting the most out of our life.

]]> By: Mathieu http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-71200 Mathieu Sat, 17 May 2008 19:09:58 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-71200 That is so truth. When you become obsessed, you become your own worst enemy. You want to learn and practice how to balance your focus, not too little, not too much. Great post overall, I learned quite a few things! That is so truth. When you become obsessed, you become your own worst enemy. You want to learn and practice how to balance your focus, not too little, not too much. Great post overall, I learned quite a few things!

]]> By: Donald Latumahina http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/comment-page-1/#comment-68151 Donald Latumahina Wed, 23 Apr 2008 17:25:32 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/22/the-danger-of-being-obsessed-and-how-to-overcome-it/#comment-68151 Nice saying, Stanley. When we are obsessed, we will be against our own interest. Nice saying, Stanley. When we are obsessed, we will be against our own interest.

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