Comments on: Review: Influence - Science and Practice http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/ Live Life to the Fullest - Personal Growth and Effectiveness Sat, 11 Oct 2008 13:42:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Donald Latumahina http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-71414 Donald Latumahina Tue, 20 May 2008 01:01:12 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-71414 Mathieu, It's an eye-opening book indeed. It sheds light on how things actually work behind the seemingly familiar events. "Friendly thief" is a good example. Mathieu,
It’s an eye-opening book indeed. It sheds light on how things actually work behind the seemingly familiar events. “Friendly thief” is a good example.

]]> By: Mathieu http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-71199 Mathieu Sat, 17 May 2008 19:07:21 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-71199 Great review of the book, it definitely makes me want to get my hands on it and read it :) The chapter about the Friendly thief looks very interesting to me. Great review of the book, it definitely makes me want to get my hands on it and read it :) The chapter about the Friendly thief looks very interesting to me.

]]> By: Donald Latumahina http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-70844 Donald Latumahina Thu, 15 May 2008 08:14:41 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-70844 J.R., Good advice. Being self-aware without blaming ourselves when something goes wrong is a good attitude to have. J.R.,
Good advice. Being self-aware without blaming ourselves when something goes wrong is a good attitude to have.

]]> By: J.R. http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-70359 J.R. Sun, 11 May 2008 20:31:41 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-70359 "I want to avoid being exploited by ill-intentioned people." Number 2, I think, is harder than number 1. I think everyone has been conned into this at some point... Just try to be self-aware, knowledgable, and live with integrity (corny, but whatever). I need to work on all these areas myself -- i'm fairly flighty and dopey at times. It's actually very easy to be exploited; just don't fall into the trap of thinking that you did anything wrong if this happens to you because you really didn't. Just remember that. It's there problem and their therapy bill, shouldn't be yours. “I want to avoid being exploited by ill-intentioned people.”

Number 2, I think, is harder than number 1. I think everyone has been conned into this at some point… Just try to be self-aware, knowledgable, and live with integrity (corny, but whatever). I need to work on all these areas myself — i’m fairly flighty and dopey at times. It’s actually very easy to be exploited; just don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you did anything wrong if this happens to you because you really didn’t. Just remember that. It’s there problem and their therapy bill, shouldn’t be yours.

]]> By: Mr Achievement’s Top Positions - Week of April 25, 2008 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-68340 Mr Achievement’s Top Positions - Week of April 25, 2008 Fri, 25 Apr 2008 17:58:51 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-68340 [...] Influence - Science and Practice (Book Review) [...] [...] Influence - Science and Practice (Book Review) [...]

]]> By: Donald Latumahina http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-68018 Donald Latumahina Tue, 22 Apr 2008 12:04:06 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-68018 Stanley, <blockquote>As we all probably suspect, there is no shortage of people out there who want to influence us to take actions that will lead to their benefit. </blockquote> Yes, that's a sad fact we must acknowledge and in the business world this could be even stronger. As you pointed out, authority is perhaps the dominant force in the business world. Mark, I believe most people have fallen into the influence trap (even Robert Cialdini has). I think the key – as you mentioned - is practice. I've learned a lot from the book but I still lack practice so I'm still vulnerable. Stanley,

As we all probably suspect, there is no shortage of people out there who want to influence us to take actions that will lead to their benefit.

Yes, that’s a sad fact we must acknowledge and in the business world this could be even stronger. As you pointed out, authority is perhaps the dominant force in the business world.

Mark,
I believe most people have fallen into the influence trap (even Robert Cialdini has). I think the key – as you mentioned - is practice. I’ve learned a lot from the book but I still lack practice so I’m still vulnerable.

]]> By: Mark Krusen http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-67845 Mark Krusen Sun, 20 Apr 2008 10:06:04 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-67845 I liked your review of the book. It sounds like a good read.I know I've been influenced like you mention in the book by a car dealership. I went in bound determined to not be taken in. Guess what. They won. I guess they were better at the game than I was.I didn't practice enough before I went in. We now are 6 months into a 60 month car payment. We just got rid of our credit card debt of 15 years so maybe we've learned our lesson. When my "stupid tax" is paid we can really start saving for retirement. I liked your review of the book. It sounds like a good read.I know I’ve been influenced like you mention in the book by a car dealership. I went in bound determined to not be taken in. Guess what. They won.

I guess they were better at the game than I was.I didn’t practice enough before I went in. We now are 6 months into a 60 month car payment. We just got rid of our credit card debt of 15 years so maybe we’ve learned our lesson. When my “stupid tax” is paid we can really start saving for retirement.

]]> By: MrAchievement.com (Stanley Bronstein) http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-67783 MrAchievement.com (Stanley Bronstein) Sat, 19 Apr 2008 18:02:55 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2008/04/19/review-influence-science-and-practice/#comment-67783 Donald: Great article. I agree with you that the most important thing is to be aware of the influences around us, so that we can avoid being taken advantage of. As we all probably suspect, there is no shortage of people out there who want to influence us to take actions that will lead to their benefit. In the business world, one thing I often run into is people who deal from a position of strength (authority) and even combine that with some of the other principles. By dealing solely from a position of strength, they force anyone who wants to do business with them to act from weakness. It's similar to bullying. Of course, as the real estate market has been turning, I'm seeing those people's position diminish. Stanley F. Bronstein Mr Achievement Attorney, CPA, Author & Professional Motivational Speaker Donald:

Great article. I agree with you that the most important thing is to be aware of the influences around us, so that we can avoid being taken advantage of.

As we all probably suspect, there is no shortage of people out there who want to influence us to take actions that will lead to their benefit.

In the business world, one thing I often run into is people who deal from a position of strength (authority) and even combine that with some of the other principles. By dealing solely from a position of strength, they force anyone who wants to do business with them to act from weakness. It’s similar to bullying. Of course, as the real estate market has been turning, I’m seeing those people’s position diminish.

Stanley F. Bronstein
Mr Achievement
Attorney, CPA, Author & Professional Motivational Speaker

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