Comments on: Essential Lessons on Making Difficult Decisions in Life

By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 07:59:11 +0000

I have a huge decision to make… I’m 30 years old and started the year off single and working as a bartender. I have a degree but haven’t found a job in my field in recent years. So, I decided to join the Navy and I leave in February, which left me with an almost eight month waiting period. Well, one month after signing my contract I met the love of my life who wants me to stay, move in with him and get engaged. I have to make this decision pretty soon, and I know my heart wants to stay, but my head (and my dad) says go. He is willing to try to make it work once I go in, but I won’t even know where I’m stationed until next summer. He has a good job and family and friends here, and some important responsibilities, so it would pain me to take him away from that. I’m torn.

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 26 Sep 2011 20:31:41 +0000

Like many others, I arrived here by google. I work for a large company, and have recently been given a new opportunity within my own company.

The new position could lead to future opportunities, but it is not a certainty. My wife has a career that would prevent her from moving, so new position would require a 2 hr commute, one way and longer hours. This would leave less family and personal time.
I am happy where I am at, and I may get a similar opportunity in a few years that would be closer to home, but that is not certain either.
My heart is conflicted. I change my mind several times a day.
I have until Friday to make a decision. It is going to be a long week..

By: Angel

Angel — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 07:25:59 +0000

Hi Donald, what your wrote is really inspiring! Right now I am a college freshman and I’m studying at a university away from home. It is one of the nation’s best universities and a lot of factors were considered before I made up my mind to finally pursue my studies here. I would like to share that I sacrificed a lot just to be here, and I’m glad with my decision. Reading this made me remember about my personal experience. Take care!

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 02:50:43 +0000

I have just accepted a new job in a city 7 hours away from my current home and job. I am looking to rent a house and relocate, and lease out my house for at least a year until I settle down at my new job. My former employer has offered me a raise at my old job and asked me to stay. I love my current job and I’m comfortable in that community. But I have accepted the other job which pays slighly more (because of the new raise from the old job). What should I do? Finding a rental home is tricky and it means moving my kids. It also means renting out my house and having to deal with tenants for a year.
Please help.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 02:46:48 +0000

If you have a good job in Nigeria, I suggest you stay there. As a professional you are able to work in your country. If you come to Canada, you will need Canadian experience and Canadian qualifications. You will be frustrated. You will end up doing manual labour to survive. Is it really true that you can only sponsor your wife if you are physically living in Canada? I know as a permanent resident you must not stay oput of Canada for more thatn 6 months…
When you come to Canada as a skilled immigrant, you will still need to go back to school to gain Canadian credentials and experience. It will take you at least 5 years to be near where you are right now.

By: Ladorsky

Ladorsky — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 17:16:57 +0000

I cuurently work in a telecom company in Nigeria. The Job is good in it own way compared to what is happening in the labour market. I got Perpanent Resident in Canada 3 years ago just before the full blown down turn in world economy with most people loosing their Jobs. I got married 2 years ago and have a son. I can only sponsor my wife to Canada if I am living in Canada. My wife does not have a strong income stream. We don’t want to loose the Canadian opportunity considering the risk of working in a very volatile area in Northern Nigeria.
Prospect of getting a job in canada is extreamly remote and when you get one it will not pay what i am earning in Nigeria.
My heart want to go Canada, my Mind tells me to stay where I am sure of good income, my body will just want to become finacially independent and my Spirit is looking for God’s direction!
Can someone help me?

By: lee

lee — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 00:41:22 +0000

i am stuck in a personal predicarment please help. i was in a relationship it was going well so i thought, fell praggy and lost the child. the guy was not there for me.we fought all the time and he somehow disappeard for 6 months without calling or anything. i thought he disappeard because i lost the child and everything.
to cut the story short i got involved in a relationship with my ex boyfreind who i left because he is younger than me and had no job. the guy is kind, generouse and understanding. we click but the financial situatuation has not changed at all. i have a good job, a car and a house and he has none. i would love to start a life with him but i ca not because of his financial situation and sadness.

the other boyfrend re appears all of a sudden and beggs me for forgiveness and claims he had personal problems and was afraid to include me in his mess. he says he loves me and wants to get back together. he has a good job and i feel i can build a life with him. i seriusly do not know who to choose between the two guys.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 08:58:55 +0000

Hi there,

I am in a predicament myself and only have 24 hours to make a final decision- any help will be much appreciated.

I have recently returned to the UK from a holiday in Turkey. I met some lovely people out there who have offered me a job. I would love to go abroad and work however I have 2 problems:

1. My father would be very upset with me.

2. I would have to sacrifice a much better paid job with more career prospects.

I am 20 years old however so surely taking a risk now would be better than in a few years time?

Thanks in advance.

By: bhong

bhong — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 11:00:38 +0000

Hi,

I’m currently the Head of Training. i was invited by the company over a year now to head it’s Salrs Training Program. I love this job. I’m passionate about it and I feel I’m good at it. Been a Sales Trainer ALL my professional life. I climbed the rope so to speak. Now, I’m on top of the training career already. Receiving written and verbal commendations for a job well-done have become normal for me.

Until yesterday June 9, the Company President/CEO, called for me in her office and told me point blank that effective next month July 1, 2011 she is appointing me as Head of Sales. I was stunned! left speechless. She said I can do the job and advised me that she will already look for a replacement for me as Head of Training Department. I told her to give me time to think about it which she graciously agreed on.

Friends told me that I’ve been in training for so long and that it’s high toime for me to go into the “unknown” and that it might be be “politically wrong to say no to the CEO”. Other friends are telling me to follow my passion.

Clearly, I’m on an “impasse”.

Would appreciate a word or two from you.

Thanks.

By: lost

lost — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 14:53:58 +0000

hello,

i have found myself at a multi-forked road. I have a decision to make, where to live, my choices are live with my father in a small country town, close to other family members, no offer of full time work and what work is there is at a lower salary.next option: to stay where I am full time job more money and close to my children, and again another job away from everyone and equal money.
now to follow my heart , i really don’t know what that is.I want a simple life ,would like to meet that special someone at some point. what has made me most happy is being near my children. and now that they are adults they are making thier own life.
so any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated..