http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/ How to Live Life to the Fullest - Personal Growth and Effectiveness Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:12:11 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/comment-page-1/#comment-38592 Kolz Blog » Blog Archive » 8 Tips to Minimize Stress and Be Content with Your Life Thu, 01 Nov 2007 21:16:18 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/#comment-38592 [...] Boost your ego, if you are better than them. But this will only make the next failure more painful. So learn something from others, set your goals, and refine your actions. Beyond that, don’t compare yourself with others. 4. Focus on being what you love rather than being loved One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you. 5. Cultivate abundance mentality Scarcity mentality says that there is only limited amount of resources available so that other people’s gain is your loss. Having this mentality will make you stressed, especially when your peers become more successful than you. So, cultivate abundance mentality instead. Abundance mentality says that there is enough resources for everyone; someone else’s gain is not your loss. There is enough for everyone to prosper. 6. Make failure your friend Failure is normal part of successful life. In fact, it is a friend of successful people. I love this quote by Thomas J. Watson: Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. The more failure you make, the more likely it is that you will be successful. Make failure your friend, and it will be much easier for you to go through each one. Seeing things as games (see #2) is one way to make yourself comfortable with failure. 7. Look back and not just look ahead Seeing how far we are from our goals may make us stressed, especially if our mind is occupied with it. So you need to also look back and see how far you have walked. What achievements have you got? What are your success stories? Remembering these will make you feel grateful for your current position in life. 8. Cultivate your enthusiasm Enthusiasm makes you excited about life. It makes you excited about where you are now no matter how difficult the situation might seem. It energizes you to always do your best. In fact, the ability to maintain enthusiasm despite failures and difficulties is an essential trait of successful people. As Winston Churchill said, Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. [...] [...] Boost your ego, if you are better than them. But this will only make the next failure more painful. So learn something from others, set your goals, and refine your actions. Beyond that, don’t compare yourself with others. 4. Focus on being what you love rather than being loved One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you. 5. Cultivate abundance mentality Scarcity mentality says that there is only limited amount of resources available so that other people’s gain is your loss. Having this mentality will make you stressed, especially when your peers become more successful than you. So, cultivate abundance mentality instead. Abundance mentality says that there is enough resources for everyone; someone else’s gain is not your loss. There is enough for everyone to prosper. 6. Make failure your friend Failure is normal part of successful life. In fact, it is a friend of successful people. I love this quote by Thomas J. Watson: Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. The more failure you make, the more likely it is that you will be successful. Make failure your friend, and it will be much easier for you to go through each one. Seeing things as games (see #2) is one way to make yourself comfortable with failure. 7. Look back and not just look ahead Seeing how far we are from our goals may make us stressed, especially if our mind is occupied with it. So you need to also look back and see how far you have walked. What achievements have you got? What are your success stories? Remembering these will make you feel grateful for your current position in life. 8. Cultivate your enthusiasm Enthusiasm makes you excited about life. It makes you excited about where you are now no matter how difficult the situation might seem. It energizes you to always do your best. In fact, the ability to maintain enthusiasm despite failures and difficulties is an essential trait of successful people. As Winston Churchill said, Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. [...]

]]> http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/comment-page-1/#comment-35585 8 Tips to Minimize Stress and Be Content with Your Life | Life Optimizer Sat, 06 Oct 2007 00:54:09 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/#comment-35585 [...] One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you. [...] [...] One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you. [...]

]]> http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/comment-page-1/#comment-3027 Donald Latumahina Wed, 28 Feb 2007 15:17:48 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/#comment-3027 Yes, it's not easy to realize that we are actually living someone else's life. I think we need to take special time to reflect for that. Yes, it’s not easy to realize that we are actually living someone else’s life. I think we need to take special time to reflect for that.

]]> http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/comment-page-1/#comment-2991 Pamela Tue, 27 Feb 2007 15:54:50 +0000 http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/2007/02/27/are-you-living-someone-elses-life/#comment-2991 I agree that we should live our own life and not someone else's life. Others might not notice it. But they'll be surprise that they are not living their own life. This could be a start for those who don't want to realize that they've lived someone else's life. I agree that we should live our own life and not someone else’s life. Others might not notice it. But they’ll be surprise that they are not living their own life. This could be a start for those who don’t want to realize that they’ve lived someone else’s life.

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